comfort and happiness
The dictionary defines comfort as "a state of ease and satisfaction of bodily wants, with freedom from pain and anxiety."
The dictionary defines happiness as "a state of well-being and contentment."
Growing up, guardians are those who put us in a positions to be as comfortable as possible, they put us in a position to learn to make ourselves happy. They must make decisions for us, as children tend to be so open as to listen to their hearts over all reason. Sometimes we hate out guardians for what they do to us, but often, later we realize that it was in our best interest, and we appreciate their actions. We resent not being able to spend the night at a friends house, for not getting the candy or food that we want, for not being able to stay up late talking on the phone...
Some might consider contentment and comfort to be synonymous. Maybe that's true or maybe that becomes true for an individual when they reach a critical point of numbness. We make decisions in dealing with people everyday. In order for these decisions to be sensible and solid decisions they must be approached by two methods simultaneously, by using your heart and your mind both. At times, the decision must be based not on what both your heart and mind want but what is best for both of them.
Therefore we reach a point in life, and often we dont realize when this point hits, that we must act as our own guardians. We have to protect ourselves from damage and put ourselves in the best position to be comfortable and in the best position to learn to make ourselves happy. This means having the strength to make decisions that may make us miserable at the time, but are the best for our interests in the longrun.
While happiness may never be reached, contentment and felicity may never be attained, in this situation, although numbness may consume our minds and bodies for a while, a state of well-being and comfort will be reached eventually. This comfort isn't the sort you feel in the arms of someone you love, but rather a comfort with yourself that you feel only when you learn to live with yourself and the numbness and/or situation that surrounds you.
acting as your own guardian sometimes comes as the hardest thing to do. Sometimes it means breaking your own heart so someone else doesn't do it first, sometimes it means knowing to break off a friend before they hurt you socially, sometimes it simply means not allowing yourself to indulge in food or behavior that you may want, but that is only damaging to yourself.
we don't always want to grow up, but sometimes we're forced to... we have to mature eventually... and this is done by having the strength to become the guardian of your own heart, mind, and self. The outward look of contentment is why we may feel that some people who "have it easy" seem totally mature, and others who seem cold and bitter are completely immature, but please, make a decision about these people using both your heart and mind. you'll find that maturity isn't defined by contentment, but rather the ability to become our own guardians and consequently the ability to live with the misery--turned to numbness--that comes from the informed decisions we must make for ourselves.
The dictionary defines happiness as "a state of well-being and contentment."
Growing up, guardians are those who put us in a positions to be as comfortable as possible, they put us in a position to learn to make ourselves happy. They must make decisions for us, as children tend to be so open as to listen to their hearts over all reason. Sometimes we hate out guardians for what they do to us, but often, later we realize that it was in our best interest, and we appreciate their actions. We resent not being able to spend the night at a friends house, for not getting the candy or food that we want, for not being able to stay up late talking on the phone...
Some might consider contentment and comfort to be synonymous. Maybe that's true or maybe that becomes true for an individual when they reach a critical point of numbness. We make decisions in dealing with people everyday. In order for these decisions to be sensible and solid decisions they must be approached by two methods simultaneously, by using your heart and your mind both. At times, the decision must be based not on what both your heart and mind want but what is best for both of them.
Therefore we reach a point in life, and often we dont realize when this point hits, that we must act as our own guardians. We have to protect ourselves from damage and put ourselves in the best position to be comfortable and in the best position to learn to make ourselves happy. This means having the strength to make decisions that may make us miserable at the time, but are the best for our interests in the longrun.
While happiness may never be reached, contentment and felicity may never be attained, in this situation, although numbness may consume our minds and bodies for a while, a state of well-being and comfort will be reached eventually. This comfort isn't the sort you feel in the arms of someone you love, but rather a comfort with yourself that you feel only when you learn to live with yourself and the numbness and/or situation that surrounds you.
acting as your own guardian sometimes comes as the hardest thing to do. Sometimes it means breaking your own heart so someone else doesn't do it first, sometimes it means knowing to break off a friend before they hurt you socially, sometimes it simply means not allowing yourself to indulge in food or behavior that you may want, but that is only damaging to yourself.
we don't always want to grow up, but sometimes we're forced to... we have to mature eventually... and this is done by having the strength to become the guardian of your own heart, mind, and self. The outward look of contentment is why we may feel that some people who "have it easy" seem totally mature, and others who seem cold and bitter are completely immature, but please, make a decision about these people using both your heart and mind. you'll find that maturity isn't defined by contentment, but rather the ability to become our own guardians and consequently the ability to live with the misery--turned to numbness--that comes from the informed decisions we must make for ourselves.
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