bathroom reader

sittin' on the bathroom stall, thats where all productive information is found on a college campus... but really, i can't help myself from reading the newspapers pinned by each potty in the stalls. i can't do it. i have to read them, even if its the business or sports section. so today, my read was about the new york times #6 best seller: He's Just Not Into You.

its a harsh reality for anyone. but it a realization that needs to happen. He's just not into you. don't feel hurt if he doesn't call... don't get depressed or overanalyze anything. the answer is simple. he's just not into you. its not a big deal. there is no obligation on his part to call you or keep in touch. he doesn't have to say he misses you and he's thinking about you. it just doesn't have to happen. and thats the way it is. so get over it.

this also ties into my anthropology class. today, we discussed marriage and mate selection. you have your field of possibility, which is pretty much everyone. then you have your field of eligibility... then you have your field of preference. now... as narrowed down as this ends up, in the end you have to be in someone elses field of possibility, eligibility and preference too. it has to be mutual. so...

he's just not into you. and its ok.

so, sometimes, when you are wondering why fireworks aren't going off... why he/she doesn't come around... whats missing? nothing. there is nothing wrong. (s)he's just not into you.